Ciao Royals! Today’s lesson is about how to have confidence,
without tearing others down.
Confidence: the ever-elusive, go-to word of advice givers
everywhere. “Just be yourself,” “fake it til you make it!” etc…
Confidence seems to be a mission impossible for many, a
priceless, fleeting feeling that evaporates when we look into our mirrors.
Why do we lose confidence? Well possibly in part due to society
and our peers, as it can be hard to feel secure and prideful when someone
teases you or society tells you that you aren’t good enough. These words and
ideas buzz around in our heads like angry hornets, stinging us back down anytime
we want to feel great for once. And possibly in part due to ourselves, as we
internalize these things and sting ourselves too.
I know it’s hard to look into a mirror and assure yourself
that you ARE good enough, strong enough, pretty/handsome enough: it’s hard to
convince yourself of your worth because of the aforementioned angry hornets in
your mind.
Confidence, for those of us who lack it, feels like the
coveted holy grail, and we feel like endless explorers who can’t rest until we
lay hands on it.
So with that struggle established, I return to a phrase I’m
sure you’ve heard- “Fake it til you Make it.” But I say, you should actually do
this! It seems stupid, like pointless nice words to console the protagonist of
an after-school special. It’s cheesy, it’s grade-A fluff, and it’s true. Yes,
this gem of drama programming is absolutely great- in moderation.
“Fake it til you make it”- When I think of that, I don’t
mean that you should walk around pretending to be high and mighty and better than
others. I don’t mean that you should tear others down. I definitely do not mean
to bully others to feel great.
When I think of this phrase, I think of building confidence
through love, positivity, and self-love.
WAYS TO BUILD CONFIDENCE:
1. Be a positive, caring person. It’s easy to feel
bad about yourself when you’re mean to others. It’s better to be kind and positive
towards others, which will slowly build your confidence in yourself. Because
every time you think “I’m a bad person” you will have hordes of evidence proving
you wrong.
2. Practice self-affirmations. Whenever possible,
give yourself compliments. Yes, even if they sound phony. You need to get into
the habit of giving yourself validation.
3. Practice self-care, even when you’re not having
a hard day. You don’t need to “earn” a self-care day! You can practice self-care
whenever you want. And if you have problems with confidence, maybe you need to
practice self-care more often to prove your worth to yourself.
4. When you’re in a good mood, make a “things I’m
good at/reasons why I’m a good person” list. Refer back to it in times of
crisis. If you can’t think of anything, ask your friends/family/partner to help
you!
Here is a video version of this post:
Remember that you are worthy of
confidence, self-love, and all good things. I love you all very much!
Thanks for reading! I hope this
lesson could help!
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5 Comments
This lesson could help millions. I agree with what you said about society. That's why us humans need to know that we are made perfectly imperfect by a perfect creator named God. We are each unique and special and have something amazing to offer to this world.
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