Ciao Royals! Today’s lesson is about standing up for
yourself. One of the most practical lessons for a Royal to learn is how to
defend oneself. Whether you are a gentler, “dainty” type royal or a fierce
warrior, male or female, learning how to stand up for yourself is crucial; you
may need to stand up for yourself to someone in conversation, online, or even
against your friends- you may even need to stand up for others.
Standing Up For Yourself: Conversation
I’m sure you Royals were taught as children to be polite and
respectful. And today, you’re learning another important lesson: do not let
others treat you badly. Do not be the one to start the petty/rude behavior, but
don’t let it go uncontested either. But how can one tiptoe around social convention
while still standing up for yourself?
Depending on what they say:
-Acknowledging “hey, what you said just now was not okay.” can
sometimes be enough, at times perhaps someone does not realize or didn’t mean
to offend you, and that’s okay, just let them know that it was not okay.
-NEVER go after someone’s physical appearance, EVEN IF they
go after yours. Simply frown, say “well, don’t you just have a charming
personality, I’m sure insulting other’s appearance will get you far in life.” And
walk away.
-WALKING AWAY IS SOMETIMES THE BEST OPTION. Don’t get into
long drawn out fights with someone. Make your point, stand up for yourself, and
leave the conversation. Even if they call after you, just go. Staying and
arguing further may lead to a physical altercation.
Standing Up For Yourself: Online
If someone is bullying you online:
-Save everything. All texts, messages, posts, etc.
Screenshots are your friend. Print them out, too.
- Only address the person publicly. Never engage them privately
or they may take your words out of context.
-Sometimes the best course of action is to ignore and block.
Blocking is NOT weak. Sometimes blocking is simply the best answer. Think of the
block button as a way to cut out negativity.
-Report this person and their actions to a trusted adult/person
of authority.
Standing Up For Yourself: With Friends
When friends say mean things, often it’s more painful than
getting anon hate. But sometimes your friends might not know that they even
hurt you.
-BE HONEST. Tell your friend that what they said hurt your
feelings.
-Be forgiving, but don’t be a doormat. Forgive once, maybe
twice, but when the behavior continues, know that it is not okay.
-Be fair to yourself. If this person is consistently mean to
you, belittles you, makes you feel bad, maybe they aren’t a true friend. See
THIS post for signs of a toxic friendship. And yes, friends can abuse too. Know
the signs.
-Don’t feel guilty. If you have to cut someone out of your
life for being toxic, you don’t need to feel guilty. Your mental health is
important. And they need to see that their bad, toxic behavior has consequences.
-Know that true friends will understand. A true friend will
not purposefully upset you, and will apologize or have a meaningful talk with
you about times they may have hurt your feelings.
Standing Up For Others
I know that this is about standing up for YOURSELF, but I
wanted to remind you to help others too. We are all human, regardless of
gender, race, age, sexuality, or anything else. Standing up for others is a
very noble and royal thing to do, and will show your humanity.
Remember to be kind, surround yourself with positivity, and
love yourself.
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This reminds me of an episode of The REL Show.
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